Mami, are you happy? 7 Tips to Help You Deal with Difficult Situations When You Have a Young Child

Mami, are you happy? 7 Tips to Help You Deal with Difficult Situations When You Have a Young Child

by Janny Perez

I was originally going to blog about something else, but felt compelled to just desahogarme (let it out).   It's been an emotional few weeks to say the least and my little girl has seen me cry on what now seems to be a daily basis. 

It started with Hurricane Harvey.  I worried about my brother, sister in law, niece and nephew who live in Houston.  Their homes were spared but so many lost everything. Then came the Oaxaca earthquake.  The images of despair, destruction, sadness were a lot.  Fast forward to Hurricane Irma and my parents and sister in immediate danger.  While they lost power for days, it paled in comparison to those that lost it all. I cried.


Now we have Hurricane Maria hitting Puerto Rico & another devastating earthquake in Mexico.  My heart breaks.  As a Latina, I think about our people, our community, our solidarity, our strength to push forward and overcome adversity.  I cry.


"Mami, are you happy?" Victoria asks.  I tell her, "Yes, mama, I'm so happy.  These are Happy tears because I have my family, you, a roof over my head, food, clothes, water, my health...I am rich."

Are you happy?


In times of grief and despair we need to remember that our children see and absorb everything.  How do WE deal with difficult situations and set an example for them?  7 Tips that will help all of us Mamás deal with today's unsettling and sometimes tragic world:

1.  Don't suppress your feelings.  If you cry in front of your child explain to them why you are crying in a way that they can understand.  "Yes, mija, I am sad.  It's ok to be sad, just like sometimes you get sad and cry and then you feel better.  I will also feel better.  I am ok."  If you simply say, "Mami is fine," without any further explanation, you may be unknowingly teaching your child that it's not ok to express your feelings.  As Latinas, many of us are taught that, "Las niñas no chillan," o "No puedes ser tan chillona" (Don't be such a crybaby).  Don't get me wrong, whining is different, but openly expressing your feelings is not a bad thing. 


2.  Ensure to them that THEY are safe.  As parents we are the foundation and rocks of our kids.  They need to know that that foundation is solid.  Express to them that they are safe.    According to Dr. Nancy Alvarez, frequently viewed on Despierta América, "La seguridad la dan mamá y papá, entonces usted tiene que mantener la calma, hablarle claro, decir 'estos so fenomenos naturales...pero no te preocupes todo va a estar bien, tu estas seguro aqui conmigo.'" ("Security comes from mom and dad, so you have to stay calm, talk clear to them, say 'these are natural ocurrences...but not to worry, you are safe with me, everything will be ok.'")

While it's ok to cry and express your emotions, if kids sense that there is an instability in the foundation, regardless if you say, "I'm fine," they will know.  This will make them feel unsafe and they may express their emotions by acting out, having nightmares or night terrors, fear, sadness, or anger. 



3.  Shield them from the news.  According to Dr. Nancy Alvarez, "Los niños pequeñitos no tienen un sentido logico hasta despues de los siete añitos y todo eso ellos lo magnifican.  Acuerdate que su mundo es fantástico entonces cuando ven eso (las noticias), les entra terror porque dicen 'me puede pasar a mi'...evitar todo esto (las noticias) porque despues por la noche vienen las pesadillas, los ataques de pánico porque tiene una asiedad que no la puede manejar."  (Young children do not have a sense of logic until after 7 years of age and they magnify everything.  Remember that their world is fantastical therefore when they see this (news), they get terrified because they say 'it can happen to me'...Avoid all of this (news) because then at night come nightmares, panic attacks because they have anxiety that they don't know how to manage.")

 No News


4. Tune into your grief.  According to Nesreen Mahmoud, grief recovery coach at Harbor Light Coaching, "Limit your own exposure to media.  We all have a threshold and children have a lower threshold.  Learning to honor our threshold is very helpful.  Also implementing activities such as meditation, yoga, and deep breathing that can lower pressure helps reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed.  Finally, practicing trust.  Trust can be a higher power, belief in yourself, our children, and future generations.  Knowing that the way you raise your child will empower them to make a difference in the world.  Practicing trust can help people in a number of different areas.  It can help reduce the frequency and severity of feeling overwhelmed and help reduce the feeling that you have to manage and control everything."

Mediating mommy

If you are experiencing depression get help. Families for Depression Awareness and or during an emergency the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK).  Para ayuda en Español llame a la Red Nacional de Prevención del Suicidio al 1-888-628-9454.


5.  Instill a sense of spirituality or belief system.  Politics and religion are very touchy subjects and I respect everyone's beliefs because we live in a great nation where you can believe in anything you want.  Personally, I like to describe myself as an open minded Catholic.  My husband isn't much of a believer and that's ok, but I want my daughter to believe in SOMETHING. Just like I cry, I Pray.  I pray with my daughter for many reasons, but mainly to teach her about the power of believing in something bigger than herself and to teach her about thinking about other's needs.


6.  Gratitude goes a long way.  Many experts say that people who express gratitude on a regular basis are happier.  When you openly express what you are grateful for it helps your children develop empathy & compassion for others.  You are also setting an example and a foundation for THEM to be happier in life.  Check out an awesome gratitude experiment video:


7.  Get your mind off of things.  It doesn't mean that you need to turn off your emotions, ignore, or suppress them.  It means turn off the TV, go for a walk, get some fresh air, go to the gym and release feel good endorphins, take a relaxing hot bath, take a time out for yourself so you can regroup and don't feel guilty about it!



On a personal note, for me giving back and helping others less fortunate makes me overall happier.  During these difficult times in our Latino communities from Texas to Florida to the Caribbean to Mexico our community has shown that we are resilient, united, and strong.  I urge you to donate even as little as $1 to any or all the causes that will benefit your comunidad.

Brigada de Rescate Mexicana Topos Paypal:

Cruz Roja Mexicana

Amazon Mexico


Global Giving 

For an in depth list visit:


Latinos Unidos









Janny Perez
Janny Perez


Size Chart

How to order the Correct Size

I don't want you to choose the wrong size when you order online.  I know I hate returning things!  To make it easier for you, I created simple, easy-to-read size charts to help you find the right t-shirt size.  Follow these 2 steps.

1) Measure these 2 points, A (Width) & B (Length) on your child's onesies, t-shirts, or on your best fitting t-shirt

Mi Legasi Baby Onesie Size ChartMi Legasi Tshirt Size Chart

2) Find the closest match and order indicated size.

Baby - Infant Onesie Size Chart 0 - 24 Months

Our baby onesies are made of 100% cotton.  They are wider to accommodate growing babies.


Width - A Length - B
0-6 Months 8 1/2" 13 3/4"
6-12 Months 9 1/4" 14 1/4"
12-18 Months 9 3/4"




10 1/4" 16 1/4"


Toddler Size Chart 2 - 4 Years

Our toddler t-shirts are made of 100% cotton.  They accommodate most toddlers 2-4 Years of age.


Width - A Length - B
2-4 Years 11 3/4"" 16 3/4"


Child and Youth T-shirt Size Chart 6 -14 Years

Our child and youth t-shirts are made of 100% cotton.  They accommodate most kids 6-14 Years of age.  If you are a petite small woman you may consider the 14-16 years Size t-shirt.


Width - A Length - B
6 - 8 Years 13" 18 1/2"
10 - 12 Years 15" 20"
14 - 16 Years 16 3/4"

22 1/2


Juniors T-shirt Size Chart

Our Junior Girls t-shirts are made of 95% cotton and 5% spandex.  They are very form fitting and stretchy.  They accommodate teens or women looking for a snug t-shirt fit.


Width - A Length - B Waist
M 15" 24 1/2" 13"
L 15 1/2" 25 3/4" 13 1/2"
XL 16 1/4"

26 1/2"

14 1/4"

Women's Unisex T-shirt Size Chart S - XL

Our soft unisex t-shirts are made of 100% cotton.  They work for both men and women.  Great if you want a looser, more relaxed fit.


Width - A Length - B
S 18" 26 1/2"
M 19 1/4" 28 1/4"
L 20 1/2"



21 1/2" 31 3/4"


Not the right size after all? No worries, you can return and exchange it for the right size. Check out our return policy for more details.